Abusive Relationships in YA Fiction and Why It’s Important to Talk About Them: Always Forever Maybe by Anica Mrose Rissi Blog Tour (+ Giveaway!)

When I first heard about Always Forever Maybe, I knew it was a book I wanted to read.

It wasn’t just the pretty, dripping paint cover that caught my eye. It was also how this book continues to spark a discourse that is really important and necessary in the scope of all of today’s YA literature.

(Also, welcome to my stop on the blog tour for Anica Mrose Rissi’s Always Forever Maybe yada yada giveaway yada yada please keep reading I will love you forever etc. etc. Now, back to the important stuff. )

This is a book that talks about domestic abuse.

And you might be thinking, “Ok, that’s cool and all, but why is this so important that your entire creative post is about this? We already know domestic abuse = bad.”

My answer is that there are so many nuances to domestic abuse that isn’t so cut and dry.

I used to be one of those people that, despite supporting those suffering from domestic abuse through volunteer work etc., didn’t really understand why people didn’t jjust leave the abusive situation.

I used to think “Why doesn’t she just leave him?” And for a lot of people who haven’t gone through such a terrible experience or who don’t know someone who has gone through this, it’s hard to understand why people don’t leave abusive partners.

But for me, books and literature helped me understand the nuances to domestic abuse.

It’s not just physical, but it spans to emotional and mental manipulation, as demonstrated by Aiden in Always Forever Maybe.

You’re really able to understand the severity of what is happening through reading this book. Even though the change from the view “Why doesn’t she just leave him?” to a better understanding on why women stay in abusive relationships occurred because of Colleen Hoover’s It Ends With Us (great book, definitely recommend) Always Forever Maybe is still a book that teaches the same lesson on a more YA reading level (aka less sex & graphic descriptions).

It’s really impactful to see how everything starts out well and good and normal for the protgonist, Bee, as she falls in love with this mysterious, almost bad-boy Aiden. Bee ends up head over heels in love with him, and even though everything starts out fine at first, it goes downhill as Rissi drops hints about Aiden’s abusive tendencies.

It started out on an emotional level–a large amount of possessiveness and unwillingness to “share” Bee with her friends, even her best friend Jo. It then goes further, Aiden acting hot and cold with Bee to try to get her to do what he wants, and him becoming overly jealous.

It then progresses to more physical things, like unwanted hickeys, bruises, and angry sex. Their relationship eventually reaches a climax, and it’s stark to see how something that appeared to be young love ended up as something so terrible because of one partner’s actions.

It’s not the progression of their relationship in Always Forever Maybe that is the skillfully crafted part, but rather the way Rissi shows Bee’s thought process throughout the whole experience.

In the past, I might have wondered why Bee doesn’t just leave Aiden. But Rissi explains this really well and demonstrates how victims constantly justify their abuser’s actions.

Throughout the story, Bee continues to defend Aiden to her friends, and eventually even justifies his physically harmful actions by thinking that she deserves it for not loving him enough and other false, yet seemingly true-to-Bee justifications.

It’s this that helps people who haven’t experienced it first or secondhand to understand the pains and the struggles victims go through. I think Rissi did a wonderful job of showing this in Always Forever Maybe, and there’s so much more to the wonderful piece of literature she crafted than what I can explain in this post.

And this all brings me to my second point.

The young adult landscape, although being very progressive compared to other industries, still features a lot of possessive and angry and potentially harmful characters and relationships.

Characters like (sorry to throw SJM under the bus) Tamlin from A Court of Thorns and Roses show characters with these harmful tendencies, and books like these in the hands of young readers (granted, this is if you never end up reading book 2 and how it shows Tamlin = bad) can be especially harmful for impressionable young minds.

When young readers read relationships like these, i.e. alpha males and possessive bad boys and all sorts of dominating characters, it perpetuates the idea that it’s okay to be treated like a possession. Relationships in YA that aren’t completely healthy, especially in popular books with lots of young readers, can end up being really harmful for the teens who read them because it gives off the wrong idea.

I feel like books like Anica Mrose Rissi’s Always Forever Maybe and others like Kami Garcia’s Broken Beautiful Hearts are paving the way in pointing out abusive tendencies and educating teens.

We really need more books that feature healthy relationships as well as books that can prove to be educational and make readers empathize with the struggles those who suffer from domestic abuse go through.

This is why Anica Mrose Rissi’s Always Forever Maybe is so important, and by reading it, you’re able to further understand the nuances to abusive relationships and simultaneously portray the right ideas to other readers.

If you’re in an abusive relationship and need help, I urge you to get help. You can find the National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7) who can provide crisis assistance and information about shelters, legal advocacy, health care centers, and counseling at the numbers below:

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
1-800-787-3224 (TDD)

More About the Book

Always Forever Maybe by Anica Mrose Rissi
Publisher: HarperTeen
Release Date: June 5, 2018
Genre: Young Adult, Contemporary

When Betts meets Aiden at the candy store where she works, their connection is like a sugar rush to the heart. Even before they share a first kiss, Betts already knows the two of them are destined to become an us.

Betts has a bruised, cautious history with love, but she feels safe and empowered in Aiden’s arms. He trusts her with the darkness in his troubled past, and his devotion opens up a new future for Betts just as everything else in her world is changing. With graduation inching closer, Betts and her best friend, Jo, have been sliding slowly apart, and that fissure is blown wide open by Aiden.

Betts has only ever kept one secret from Jo, but suddenly there’s a long list of things she won’t tell her, things Jo wouldn’t understand. Because Jo doesn’t see how good Aiden is for Betts. She finds him needy. Possessive. Controlling.

She’s wrong. With a love like this, nothing else matters.

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More About the Author

Anica Mrose Rissi photo by Kim Indresano.jpgAnica Mrose Rissi grew up on an island off the coast of Maine. After college, she moved to New York City, where she worked as a cheesemonger and book editor. She now writes, fiddles in the electro-country band Owen Lake and the Tragic Loves, and walks with her dog, Arugula, near their home in Princeton, New Jersey. Anica is the author of several books for younger readers, and her essays have been published by The Writer and the New York Times. Always Forever Maybe is her YA debut. Visit her online at anicarissi.com, and follow her on Instagram and Twitter at @anicarissi.

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90178-rafflecopter-logo-social-media-contest1Thank you so much to Harper Collins, Edelweiss, and the Fantastic Flying Book Club for providing me with a digital review copy for this blog tour! Don’t forget to check out the other stops below!


May 29th

Pink Polka Dot Books– Welcome Post

May 30th

Never Too Many To Read– Creative Option
Rurouni Jenni Reads– Review & Favorite Quotes

May 31st

Velvet Spade Reads– Review & Favorite Quotes
The Book Slayer– Review
Lauren’s Crammed Bookshelf– Review

June 1st

June 4th

Book Lady’s Reviews– Review
Portrait of a Book– Creative Option

June 5th

Bookablereads– Review
Vicky Who Reads– Creative Post

June 6th

June 7th

Life at 17– Review

June 8th

Actin’ Up with Books– Review
The Book Dutchesses– Review

much love, vicky

Which books about domestic abuse have you read & which do you recommend?


10 thoughts on “Abusive Relationships in YA Fiction and Why It’s Important to Talk About Them: Always Forever Maybe by Anica Mrose Rissi Blog Tour (+ Giveaway!)

    1. You should definitely check this one out! And thank you!

      Also, if you’re looking for more fictional reading on the topic & don’t mind or are willing to put up with some sex scenes & more graphic scenes, I highly recommend Colleen Hoover’s It Ends With Us. You might think Colleen Hoover is a trashy romance novel, but her portrayal of domestic abuse in this book is extremely profound and honestly mind-set changing.


  1. I love your post!! I also once thought “jeez, just LEAVE!!”– but then I got involved with a guy like Aiden (who never hit me, but did all the psychological abuse and EXTREME jealousy) and I found it SO hard to get out of.

    It’s because when he wasn’t doing those terrible, terrible things, it felt like he cared about me most in the whole world. Also, he would make me feel like if I left, it was like I was giving up on helping him and that he would kill himself. He was so good at manipulating me to stay even when I had my mind 100% made up– and I’m not one who’s mind is easy to change.

    I definitely agree having books like this will help, and I wish I read this and BAD ROMANCE by Heather Demetrios before I met that guy. Maybe I would have seen the red flags and got out before I was so far in.

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    1. Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry you had to go through all of that. I’m glad you could relate to my post & this book. The emotional manipulation is sometimes even worse than something physical because it’s easier to brush off. I’ve heard of Bad Romance, but I didn’t know it talked about this! I’ll definitely have to check it out! Thank you for sharing with me ❤


      1. I was honestly surprised because I didn’t really hear much about it and picked it up on a whim, but then I ended up being crazy about it. I actually listened to it on audio and thought it was so well done. I hope you love it 🙂 xoxo

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