A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns by Archie Bongiovanni and Tristan Jimerson & Why This Is Important


4.5 stars

Archie, a snarky genderqueer artist, and Tristan are banding together in a short and fun illustrated guide to explain what pronouns are, why they matter, and how to use them, as well as helpful information such as what to do if you mess up and tips-and-tricks for those who are non-binary, all wrapped up in a quick and easy resource with lovely, fun graphics for anyone who wants to learn more!

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I really enjoyed reading this one!

It’s such a great guide for both introducing people to they/them pronouns or revisiting the topic on in a way that makes it fun and just a sweet, perfectly-timed-for-pride-month sort of read.

I think one of the first things I need to start this off with is the illustrations and the book itself. I LOVE LOVE LOVE how it’s small, simple, clear, and easy to read. It’s also intentionally priced on the lower scale so you can buy multiple copies and share them, if you wanted to.

I feel like this one quote from the book really sums it up well:

Also, if education fails and folks are just being jerks, you can just throw this book in their face.

See?! There’s just one more use for it. It’s purposely meant to be educational, but fun in a way that even if you are well-informed about they/them (and other gender neutral pronouns), it can still be an entertaining and relatable read. (As in agreeing that some people are assholes.)

The illustrations are monochromatic in black, white, and shades of grey, and it is a comic, so it features cartoon sketches of both the authors as they talk and act out examples and circumstances for the reader.

Where the half star fell off was just kind of me being picky about the book. I kind of wish the illustrations played a more important role to the text. It felt like you could read this whole book without looking at the pictures, and I wanted a little more interaction between words and graphics.

Despite this, I feel like the graphics still added an extra layer to the work, making it fun and a little goofy and good for really emphasizing the point.

This book is just so important in general because people need to be respectful about these things. It might not be able to convert the staunchest, stubbornest of people who hate anything that isn’t cis het white, but I think it’s really good if you wanted to introduce a friend who’s not really exposed to these things a lot to just make them a little more “woke.”

It’s undeninable that we should use the proper pronouns for people (anyone who thinks otherwise can unfollow me now; thank you for coming to my TED talk) and this book is a good way to help ensure that more people know about this.

I guess I should mention that I found the book to be pretty spot on (if it’s important to you to know, one of the authors is #OwnVoices) and it was fun and light and a speedy 30 minute read.

The authors did a really good way of rationalizing some of the content for some possibly more stubborn readers, and I think it’s really great that they’re making this book, even though it’s not their job to educate people. (Just like it’s not POC’s job to educate you about the POC experience).

This was a really quick but fun read, even though I’m already aware of they/them pronouns and how to use them. Despite this, the authors introduce a couple of new ways of bringing up things like how to ask someone what their pronoun is, which I feel like I could use in the future. Overall, I definitely recommend you pick this up, whether it’s on loan from a friend or ordering your own copy for less than $8.

Thank you so much to Margot Wood and Oni Press for sending me an advance reader’s copy in exchange for an honest review!

much love, vicky

Have you ever met someone who could use a copy of this book (to read, or to be thrown at their head)?

9 thoughts on “A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns by Archie Bongiovanni and Tristan Jimerson & Why This Is Important

    1. I’m glad you liked it! This is such a fun book and I sooo recommend everyone reads it! It’s just adorable and fun but also super informative in a good way <333

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  1. I have a digital copy of this sitting on my computer for so long. I was actually waiting for Pride month to pick it up but haven’t gotten around to it in the first week. Hopefully in a few days 😀 I’m a huge advocate of using proper pronouns and I guess this book can be fun to get more hints of that!

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  2. This seems like a good one! I defo need it in my life.

    I live in perpetual fear of offending someone somewhere. In my native language gender pronoun does not exist and even after living in England for 10 years i make weird mistakes and then we have not even gotten to the “they,/them” part.

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    1. It’s super informative and doesn’t make you feel bad, even if you don’t have experience with it. This book also helps you know what to do if you accidentally use the wrong pronoun, and how to approach the topi, which I think you’ll find super helpful!

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